Some people choose superficial relationships. There is nothing wrong with this. It's one of life's choices, and choices have consequences. The danger is that superficial relationships can be too casual, and casualness can cause casualties. Commitment brings power and magic to a relationship. Consider writing and reciting your commitment. You can do this alone or with a few special friends or family members. Pick a romantic place, indoors or out. Here's an example of a statement of commitment. Modify it so it's right for you.