If you're feeling overwhelmed by all of this, just take a few deep breaths. Maybe you need more time to get ready. There's no need to hurry. When you actually have sex for the first time it will be more exciting if you're more relaxed. One of the most important places to be relaxed is the muscle that surrounds the vagina. It's good to practice contracting these so you can relax them when you begin to have intercourse. Learn about vaginal muscle exercises.